Tips on How to Make a First Date Lead to a Second Date
It can be exciting and nerve-wracking to go on a first date. When you meet someone new, you hope that sparks will fly and aren’t sure you’ll like them enough to go on a second date. The good news? Planning can make your first date memorable and turn it into the start of a great relationship. How to do it:
Show up on time and ready.
First impressions are essential. Arrive on time and show that you care about the other person’s plan. Plan the date carefully. Whether it’s a fun exercise or a cosy coffee shop, pick a place to talk without being forced to shout with the noise level.
Remember important things they said if you talked to them online before the meeting. Talking about their favourite book or a recent trip shows that you are interested and paying attention.
Active listening is important.
There are two ways to have a conversation. It’s easy to share your own stories to show off, but balance is important. “What’s a hobby you love?” or “What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?” are examples of open-ended questions.
Make eye contact and think about what they say as you answer. Active listening lets them know you care about what they say and builds a relationship.
Try to be real.
You might say what you think your date wants to hear, which is a bad idea. Instead, focus on being your true self. Being honest about your hobbies and values is a great way to connect with someone and start a relationship that means something to you.
Keep the good vibes going.
You shouldn’t discuss work worries or problems with an ex-lover on a first date. Keep the mood happy and light. Tell funny or encouraging stories, and if things go well, make other people laugh.
Finish on a High Note
Say, thank you at the end of the date. A simple “Thank you for today; I really enjoyed it” can make a lasting impression. Be clear that you want a second date, but don’t be pushy. It’s just right to say, “I’d love to do this again.”
Follow up
You have 24 hours to text and say you had a great time. It only takes a little to make a big difference. If both of you feel the same way, you’re already one step closer to date number two.
The keys to getting a second date are yourself on the first date, being interested in the other person, and making the experience fun for both of you. If you put in some work and are honest, you might find the spark you’re looking for.